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Controling Our Emotions
A Note from Jason Sandler.
How time flies, can you believe we are already 10 days into 2016.So many of us set "new years resolutions" with the overwhelming desire to achieve our goal.
Sadly it is always around this time, 10 - 14 days later, that we start to slide and the goal we have set begins to fade.
I've decided that the goals I set myself in 2013, that i gave up on in 2014 and have resurrected now will be achieved by the end of the year.
How am I doing this, you may be asking.
It's quite simple actually.
What I'm doing is a two-fold approach.
One I've made my goals very clear, as in I have defined them right down to the smallest detail.
The other thing that I've done is that I've shared what my goals are with a business college (not a friend, a business college) who is going to be holding me accountable.
Because I'm being held accountable I know I will push myself harder, after all it may be ok disappointing myself, but I can't disappoint a work college!
What I want each of you to do is to break your goal down into achieveable and understandable micro chunks then share them with someone asking that person to take the position of holding you responsible.
Lets all work on ourselves to make 2016 an awesome year!
To infinity and beyond......
One of the biggest hurdles we have in achieving our goals is procrastination.
Procrastination can be defined as "the art of finding justification to avoid completing certain tasks" Actually this definition makes it sound ok, but it is NOT!
As humans we need to keep evolving, if not and we begin to stagnate, what purpose do we have?
My Grandmother was 88 years old and still went to her shop 5 days a week. We said to her to stop, take it easy, spend some time with the grand and great grandchildren. Her response was, "if i don't go to work whats the purpose of waking up."
What can you do to beat your procrastination?
Here is a list of what works for me.
1. just get moving - build momentum, it makes it easier.
2. put reminders on your phone - guilt sometimes works
3. become accountable - you don't want to let someone else down
4. schedule time to do it - remove all distractions such as TV, phones, people
5. set realistic goals
6. pace yourself - take regular breaks
7. know what fear is stopping you
Have a look at these 7 ideas, choose some all all and lets take your procrastination to the dumpsite!
Please click the button on the right and send me an email with what works for you from my list of 7 or an original idea you may have.
Till next time, keep growing,
Why do we allow others to manipulate us through our emotions?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
Have you ever felt like a good mood only for it to change within a split second because someone said something to you? I bet it has.
We need to learn that the only person that we can control is ourselves, thats unless someone else allows us to control them.
Take a simple statement such as "I love you". Said by different people in different situations can and will bring different emotions us in you, will it not?
Said by your child elicits a different emotion than when stated by a drunk in a club.
We need to learn to take back control of ourselves. This means not allowing others to manipulate our feelings.
Feelings ae what make us who we are, the words and the actions we do are merely an external manifestation of what we are feeling.
Far to often things said by those that shouldnt matter hurt far to deeply. as the childrens poem goes:
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can also hurt me.
Stones and sticks break only skin, while words are ghosts that haunt me.
Slant and curved the word-swords fall, it pierces and sticks inside me.
Bats and bricks may ache through bones, but words can mortify me.
Pain from words has left its' scar, on mind and hear that's tender.
Cuts and bruises have not healed, it's words that I remember. "
If this doesn't hit a hard truth home, nothing will.
It's time we as individuals took back our power and choose when to allow another persons words to impact on our lives.
So for the next few days please start creating an awareness to the words you use.
Till next time, keep growing,